We’ve all said things we regret. Whether it’s at work or over dinner with family, it can be difficult to control our emotions in stressful situations. And the fact is, the effort to restrain or ignore thoughts and emotions in high-stress circumstances can lead to emotional outburst: recent research demonstrates that refusing to engage with thoughts takes up cognitive resources and depletes mental resources, leading to poorer problem solving and “emotional leakage,” aka emotional outbursts.

Fortunately, experts like Dr. Susan David —the  award-winning psychologist at Harvard Medical School and co-founder of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital — are researching how we can manage our emotions in high-stress environments. Dr. David’s new book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life, provides a science-based approach to dealing with the curveballs that life throws at us. The work explores how we can bring ourselves into the present, evaluate our circumstance, and inject value into our actions based on what is important to us, instead of on unchecked thoughts and emotions.

Dr. David sat down with IVY Magazine to elaborate on how we can be more emotionally aware, fulfilled people, and learn the secrets of happiness and success in the process.

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